Phoebe's Poly Dating Adventures

Do people actually do this? Do women respond positively to this, agreeing to meet a guy at his place with this little information? Do men really expect women to jump all over this kind of offer with 25 words on a profile (I counted) and no face pics? Maybe he thought it was innocuous because he said "coffee and conversation"? I mean he didn't say freaky sex or torture, dismemberment and murder--just coffee and conversation is okay, right? Maybe I'm the insane one, I don't know. I have a lot of LS friends here, so maybe you can shed some light on if this is the norm these days. I've been out of the game for a while, after all, and I'm kind of dipping my toes in by myself this time (without a partner). So maybe there are different expectations now? I keep getting these super presumptuous messages, and it's like no one can write an introduction or articulate why they're worth meeting in the first place. Is it because I'm older now? Because I'm...

It's a new week. So...what is Phoebe up to? I'm scheduled to meet someone new tomorrow. Everyone else I was talking to has either been blocked or has ghosted me. Fun stuff! I'll let you know how it goes. I think he will be a nice guy, and I may like him, but he lives a little far from me, and his schedule and my schedule don't match up well so...not sure it will be that fruitful but he has been very diligent about texting me and seems very interested, so we'll see. We will be calling him The Bartender because that's what he does. Over the weekend, I had an epiphany that maybe I was missing out on an untapped market: the male halves of swinging couples. Many play separately, and perhaps I could find a stable lifestyle couple where the wife was willing to share periodically and would be agreeable to a drama-free married woman who was not in the least bit threatening to her marriage? Also, it has been my observation, that LS men are more experienced and make better...

Whew. It's been a little crazy since I returned from the Homeland. It's like all the sudden, all these interested parties have come out of the woodwork. I was texting with three or four different FWB candidates in the past two weeks. No wonder I can't get my work done!  I was sort of getting to the point of meeting someone in person when my social anxiety kicked in. I didn't make concrete plans with him for the other night, but I'd said I might possibly be able to meet him. As it turned out, I didn't feel up to it, and when I told him, he was a pouty little asshole about it. Even at 7:30 that night, he was still begging me to "come out and say hi, just five minutes," he said. Never mind that it would have been an hour round trip for me for "five minutes." So I told him I was going to stay in and bake my kids cookies, and that maybe we could try on Thursday. He did not return my text that night. Nor yesterday. Nor all day today. This is after ...