More of the Same (and a Peek Inside My Inbox)

It's a new week. So...what is Phoebe up to?

I'm scheduled to meet someone new tomorrow. Everyone else I was talking to has either been blocked or has ghosted me. Fun stuff! I'll let you know how it goes. I think he will be a nice guy, and I may like him, but he lives a little far from me, and his schedule and my schedule don't match up well so...not sure it will be that fruitful but he has been very diligent about texting me and seems very interested, so we'll see. We will be calling him The Bartender because that's what he does.

Over the weekend, I had an epiphany that maybe I was missing out on an untapped market: the male halves of swinging couples. Many play separately, and perhaps I could find a stable lifestyle couple where the wife was willing to share periodically and would be agreeable to a drama-free married woman who was not in the least bit threatening to her marriage? Also, it has been my observation, that LS men are more experienced and make better partners than non-LS (on average, of course)

So I made an account on the old swinger site I used to frequent, where my ex and I met almost all the couples we played with and partied with "back in the day." The site is like from 1999 or something. Despite some updates, it's still pitiful, but oh well. 

I filled out a profile and very carefully detailed what I was looking for. And what I'm not looking for, because sometimes that's easier to articulate. For example: I said very clearly I want someone within an hour's drive (and specifically said NOT New Jersey or New York) and very clearly NO SMOKERS. I added (as I usually do) that I'm not interested in men who are cheating on their partners because it's just a messy situation I'd rather not get involved in (and I believe 90% of the time when a guy ghosts me, that's probably why. Even if he said he has permission, there's no real way for me to know for sure).

I've gotten dozens of emails already, and half are from men in NJ or who smoke. I am actually pretty convinced after this many years on these sites that NJ has a real literacy problem based on the messages I receive from that state. But I digress. So far, none from couples where they play separately. It's all "single" men.

Then I got this absolutely charming message on FetLife today, the burden of which I just cannot bear to carry alone. So you get to see too.


I mean, wow, right? 

So, yeah, we'll see how tomorrow goes LOL. 


Comments

  1. SarahMoonSeptember 9, 2020 at 4:06 PM

    I always made it mandatory I met with their partner before we could play. Strong no to mister pissy pants.

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    1. Phoebe AlexanderSeptember 16, 2020 at 4:21 PM

      Yeah I can understand that, however, if the shoe were on the other foot, I wouldn't want to go through the hassle of them meeting Mr. A. I mean, he wouldn't care one way or the other but his schedule is such a pain and I normally meet up with people when he's working.

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